Mama's Energy Check: How to Reset When Life Feels Heavy

I’ve felt my energy slipping over the last few days. Not gone, just off.

You ever have those weeks where you’re doing all the things but still don’t feel like you? This week is reminding me that sometimes, before you push through, you have to pause and check in with yourself.

Sunday I felt it—that familiar tug. My energy was off. At first, I couldn’t name it. But by Monday, it had settled in. That quiet, restless heaviness that sneaks in when life starts to stack up.

Looking back, I probably first felt it Friday. Watching my babies cry as we said goodbye to their dad always hits different. They love their daddy, and he loves them. It’s complicated and tender all at once.

By the time Monday afternoon rolled around, my emotions had taken the driver’s seat. I was in my head—plotting, fixing, overthinking, breathing harder. My mind running laps trying to organize what my heart couldn’t.

I thrive in solution, in positivity, in hope. But lately, everything’s been tugging at me—soccer, travel, home life. Soccer especially. I love those boys, but some days I wonder if I’ve reached my limit. Do I still have what they need from me? Am I helping or holding them back?

And Colorado—whew. I love it, but it also represents a dream deferred. Leaving it behind pulls at me in ways I don’t always talk about. Seeing the kids process that distance from their dad and that other version of life makes it harder.

Home should feel grounding, and it does…but also a little flat sometimes. After so much adventure, being still can feel like standing in quicksand.

Then Monday night happened. I thought Taekwondo started at 6:25, but it had started at 5:40. We pulled up thinking we were early—turns out, we were 30 minutes late. The kind of mistake that sums up how off I’ve been.

But in that same moment, sitting in the car with the windows down, Aliah asleep in the back, and Arrington and I having a real mom-son talk—something good was happening too. I wasn’t where I planned to be, but maybe exactly where I needed to be.

mamas energy check in at sunset

That’s the thing about energy. It speaks before you do. My cues are always the same: irritability, craving solitude, craving love from places I wish would pour it back.

When I notice those signs, I know it’s time for a mama energy check.

For me, that means a pause. Sitting on the back porch. Doing yoga. Being present. Remembering the work, growth, the grace. Listening for God’s whisper instead of my own overthinking.

If you’ve been feeling off—emotionally, mentally, spiritually—you’re not alone. Life can shake you up without warning. But you don’t have to stay scattered. Take your pause. Breathe. Feel the thing. Then find and work your plan to get back.

You’ve got this. Even when you don’t feel like yourself—especially then—you’re still growing.